Janie Taylor (![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
a_time_slip) wrote2009-07-03 04:34 am
a_time_slip) wrote2009-07-03 04:34 am
Um...
This is a lot of planning. What about finding an officiant to do this when we're ready to marry, because I have no confidence in my wedding planning abilities at all. Having a wedding would be nice and I want one... but this is a lot of planning, and I don't know who would be in the party, I can't contribute to the costs, I've got no dowry- wait, that's not used anymore.
I think all of this is starting to hit me. I'm getting married, I'm moving, I'm going to school, this stuff with my 'family', I'm going to be a stepmother. If this all fails... No. I'll forget about that for now.
9-12 months before the wedding:
*Announce your engagement to friends and family.
* Arrange for parents to get together and meet each other if they haven't already.
* Pick a special date to begin your lives together. May 25.
* Discuss what your budget will be and who'll be contributing what to the event.
* Interview wedding planners if you're using one. Not trusting anyone else to plan this if we do this wedding thing.
* Pick the ceremony site and meet with the officiant. Um, haven't done that yet.
* Work on the guest list to get a rough head count. 5? Is that even a wedding?
* Visit reception sites and reserve one. I?? Um. I haven't yet.
* Begin shopping for your wedding gown. Does looking online count?
* If you want to drop a few pounds for the wedding start now. ??? I have to lose weight?
6-9 months before the wedding:
*Choose the members of your wedding party. But those are my guests...
*Select a caterer. Bring your own lunch? Okay... um, I'll need to research this more.
*Enroll in a bridal registry. I'm not sure about this.
*Order your wedding gown. Once I pick one out and get the money for it.
*Shop for bridesmaids dresses. ...I have to buy those too?
*Pick a photographer and videographer. No. I don't want my picture taken.
*Hire a florist. This is already adding up to too much
*Start thinking about where you'd like to go for your honeymoon. Somewhere quiet and relaxing.
*Send out save-the-date cards, especially if your wedding is on a holiday weekend. This list is discouraging.
4-6 months before the wedding:
*Order wedding stationary (place cards, thank you cards, etc.). I understand thank you cards, but I don't care where people sit... well, no. Phoenix can't sit with us, and Mother can't sit near Daddy
*Shop for the perfect wedding cake. Mmm, cake
*Hire your wedding-day transportation (carriage, limousine, etc.) We can't use Ian's car?
*Book your favorite hair stylist and makeup artist. Done! It's me!
*Check on hotels for any out-of-town guests. I don't think that'll be a concern?
*Finalize the guest list. All 5 of the people on it.
*Get definite plans for your honeymoon, make airline and hotel arrangements. We'll cross this bridge when we get to it
*Plan the rehearsal dinner. Mmm, dinner.
2-4 months before the wedding:
* Purchase the marriage license from your cities county clerk. Everything has a price.
* Order tuxedos for the groom and groomsmen. He already has a tux.
* Meet with the caterer to go over menus, wine selections, etc. A glass of wine would be good right now.
* Order the wedding cake. Again, torturing me with the cake!
* Select wedding ceremony and reception music. That will be easy.
* If you plan on writing your own vows start writing them now. Um. If I can write a set of equations I will.
4-8 weeks before the wedding:
*Mail wedding invitations 6 to 8 weeks ahead of your wedding date. That's actually simple
*Do a hair and make up run through with your wedding veil on. Why?
2-4 weeks before the wedding:
*Work on the seating arrangements for the reception. IMPORTANT STEP!
*Confirm details with the photographer, florist, and other vendors. They shouldn't need confirming.
*Have your final wedding dress fitting. It needs to be fitted? Fine.
*Write your rehearsal-dinner toast. Can this be an equation too?
*Purchase gifts for the wedding attendants. They need gifts? No idea what to get them.
*Compile a list of all of the wedding vendors and wedding party. Carry this list with you everywhere you go just in case. Obviously.
1 week before the wedding:
*Place any amounts due on the wedding day in envelopes for easy distribution. Obviously.
*Give the caterer a final head count. Another obvious thing.
*Find a trustworthy person to take the cake knife, toasting glasses, etc. to the reception. That person is on the guestlist/wedding party
*Get final beauty treatments (manicure, facial, massage, waxing, brow shaping, etc.). Um... I don't do those things.
*Pack for the honeymoon. Common sense.
The day before the wedding:
*Get something old - symbolizes continuity with the bride's family and the past. Done.
* Get something new - means optimism and hope for the bride's new life ahead Done.
* Get something borrowed - an item from a happily married friend or family member, whose good fortune in marriage is supposed to carry over to the new bride. Thanks, John.
* Get something blue - to symbolize love, modesty, and fidelity. Done.
* And a silver sixpence in her shoe - represents wealth and financial security. For optimum fortune, the sixpence should be in the left shoe. These days, a dime or a copper penny can be substituted. Thanks Phoenix.
The day of the wedding:
*Relax and remain calm. HAHAHAHAHA
*Remember to eat something. You may be so busy with things that you forget. I doubt I'll remember this list
*Allow yourself at least two hours to get dressed. Why so long?
*Enjoy yourself at this once in a life time event! If I'm not freaking out.
Summary = (Freaking out) X (Wedding planning list) / promise of food and drink = Pessimistic Janie.
What if this doesn't happen? Something is going to go wrong. Something terrible. I can't take it if that happens. I don't know what to do.
I think all of this is starting to hit me. I'm getting married, I'm moving, I'm going to school, this stuff with my 'family', I'm going to be a stepmother. If this all fails... No. I'll forget about that for now.
9-12 months before the wedding:
* Discuss what your budget will be and who'll be contributing what to the event.
* Pick the ceremony site and meet with the officiant. Um, haven't done that yet.
* Work on the guest list to get a rough head count. 5? Is that even a wedding?
* Visit reception sites and reserve one. I?? Um. I haven't yet.
* Begin shopping for your wedding gown. Does looking online count?
* If you want to drop a few pounds for the wedding start now. ??? I have to lose weight?
6-9 months before the wedding:
*Choose the members of your wedding party. But those are my guests...
*Select a caterer. Bring your own lunch? Okay... um, I'll need to research this more.
*Enroll in a bridal registry. I'm not sure about this.
*Order your wedding gown. Once I pick one out and get the money for it.
*Shop for bridesmaids dresses. ...I have to buy those too?
*Pick a photographer and videographer. No. I don't want my picture taken.
*Hire a florist. This is already adding up to too much
*Start thinking about where you'd like to go for your honeymoon. Somewhere quiet and relaxing.
*Send out save-the-date cards, especially if your wedding is on a holiday weekend. This list is discouraging.
4-6 months before the wedding:
*Order wedding stationary (place cards, thank you cards, etc.). I understand thank you cards, but I don't care where people sit... well, no. Phoenix can't sit with us, and Mother can't sit near Daddy
*Shop for the perfect wedding cake. Mmm, cake
*Hire your wedding-day transportation (carriage, limousine, etc.) We can't use Ian's car?
*Check on hotels for any out-of-town guests. I don't think that'll be a concern?
*Finalize the guest list. All 5 of the people on it.
*Get definite plans for your honeymoon, make airline and hotel arrangements. We'll cross this bridge when we get to it
*Plan the rehearsal dinner. Mmm, dinner.
2-4 months before the wedding:
* Purchase the marriage license from your cities county clerk. Everything has a price.
* Order tuxedos for the groom and groomsmen. He already has a tux.
* Meet with the caterer to go over menus, wine selections, etc. A glass of wine would be good right now.
* Order the wedding cake. Again, torturing me with the cake!
* Select wedding ceremony and reception music. That will be easy.
* If you plan on writing your own vows start writing them now. Um. If I can write a set of equations I will.
4-8 weeks before the wedding:
*Mail wedding invitations 6 to 8 weeks ahead of your wedding date. That's actually simple
*Do a hair and make up run through with your wedding veil on. Why?
2-4 weeks before the wedding:
*Work on the seating arrangements for the reception. IMPORTANT STEP!
*Confirm details with the photographer, florist, and other vendors. They shouldn't need confirming.
*Have your final wedding dress fitting. It needs to be fitted? Fine.
*Write your rehearsal-dinner toast. Can this be an equation too?
*Purchase gifts for the wedding attendants. They need gifts? No idea what to get them.
*Compile a list of all of the wedding vendors and wedding party. Carry this list with you everywhere you go just in case. Obviously.
1 week before the wedding:
*Place any amounts due on the wedding day in envelopes for easy distribution. Obviously.
*Give the caterer a final head count. Another obvious thing.
*Find a trustworthy person to take the cake knife, toasting glasses, etc. to the reception. That person is on the guestlist/wedding party
*Get final beauty treatments (manicure, facial, massage, waxing, brow shaping, etc.). Um... I don't do those things.
*Pack for the honeymoon. Common sense.
The day before the wedding:
*Get something old - symbolizes continuity with the bride's family and the past. Done.
* Get something new - means optimism and hope for the bride's new life ahead Done.
* Get something borrowed - an item from a happily married friend or family member, whose good fortune in marriage is supposed to carry over to the new bride. Thanks, John.
* Get something blue - to symbolize love, modesty, and fidelity. Done.
* And a silver sixpence in her shoe - represents wealth and financial security. For optimum fortune, the sixpence should be in the left shoe. These days, a dime or a copper penny can be substituted. Thanks Phoenix.
The day of the wedding:
*Relax and remain calm. HAHAHAHAHA
*Remember to eat something. You may be so busy with things that you forget. I doubt I'll remember this list
*Allow yourself at least two hours to get dressed. Why so long?
*Enjoy yourself at this once in a life time event! If I'm not freaking out.
Summary = (Freaking out) X (Wedding planning list) / promise of food and drink = Pessimistic Janie.
What if this doesn't happen? Something is going to go wrong. Something terrible. I can't take it if that happens. I don't know what to do.
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