Um...

[a_time_slip]

This is a lot of planning. What about finding an officiant to do this when we're ready to marry, because I have no confidence in my wedding planning abilities at all. Having a wedding would be nice and I want one... but this is a lot of planning, and I don't know who would be in the party, I can't contribute to the costs, I've got no dowry- wait, that's not used anymore.

I think all of this is starting to hit me. I'm getting married, I'm moving, I'm going to school, this stuff with my 'family', I'm going to be a stepmother. If this all fails... No. I'll forget about that for now.

9-12 months before the wedding:

*Announce your engagement to friends and family. 
* Arrange for parents to get together and meet each other if they haven't already.
* Pick a special date to begin your lives together. May 25.
* Discuss what your budget will be and who'll be contributing what to the event.  I can't, unless I get a job (which I will when we're in Texas)
* Interview wedding planners if you're using one.  Not trusting anyone else to plan this if we do this wedding thing.
* Pick the ceremony site and meet with the officiant.  Um, haven't done that yet.
* Work on the guest list to get a rough head count.  5?  Is that even a wedding?
* Visit reception sites and reserve one.  I?? Um.  I haven't yet.
* Begin shopping for your wedding gown.  Does looking online count?
* If you want to drop a few pounds for the wedding start now.  ???  I have to lose weight?

6-9 months before the wedding:

*Choose the members of your wedding party.  But those are my guests...
*Select a caterer.  Bring your own lunch?  Okay...  um, I'll need to research this more.
*Enroll in a bridal registry.  I'm not sure about this.
*Order your wedding gown. Once I pick one out and get the money for it.
*Shop for bridesmaids dresses.  ...I have to buy those too?
*Pick a photographer and videographer.  No.  I don't want my picture taken.
*Hire a florist.  This is already adding up to too much
*Start thinking about where you'd like to go for your honeymoon.  Somewhere quiet and relaxing.
*Send out save-the-date cards, especially if your wedding is on a holiday weekend.  This list is discouraging.

4-6 months before the wedding:

*Order wedding stationary (place cards, thank you cards, etc.).  I understand thank you cards, but I don't care where people sit...  well, no.  Phoenix can't sit with us, and Mother can't sit near Daddy
*Shop for the perfect wedding cake.  Mmm, cake
*Hire your wedding-day transportation (carriage, limousine, etc.)  We can't use Ian's car?
*Book your favorite hair stylist and makeup artist. Done!  It's me!
*Check on hotels for any out-of-town guests.   I don't think that'll be a concern?
*Finalize the guest list.  All 5 of the people on it.
*Get definite plans for your honeymoon, make airline and hotel arrangements.  We'll cross this bridge when we get to it
*Plan the rehearsal dinner.  Mmm, dinner.

2-4 months before the wedding:

* Purchase the marriage license from your cities county clerk.  Everything has a price.
* Order tuxedos for the groom and groomsmen.   He already has a tux.
* Meet with the caterer to go over menus, wine selections, etc. A glass of wine would be good right now.
* Order the wedding cake.  Again, torturing me with the cake!
* Select wedding ceremony and reception music.  That will be easy.
* If you plan on writing your own vows start writing them now.  Um.  If I can write a set of equations I will.

4-8 weeks before the wedding:

*Mail wedding invitations 6 to 8 weeks ahead of your wedding date.  That's actually simple
*Do a hair and make up run through with your wedding veil on.  Why?

2-4 weeks before the wedding:

*Work on the seating arrangements for the reception.  IMPORTANT STEP!
*Confirm details with the photographer, florist, and other vendors.  They shouldn't need confirming.
*Have your final wedding dress fitting.  It needs to be fitted?  Fine.
*Write your rehearsal-dinner toast.  Can this be an equation too?
*Purchase gifts for the wedding attendants.  They need gifts?  No idea what to get them.
*Compile a list of all of the wedding vendors and wedding party. Carry this list with you everywhere you go just in case.  Obviously.

1 week before the wedding:

*Place any amounts due on the wedding day in envelopes for easy distribution.  Obviously.
*Give the caterer a final head count.  Another obvious thing.
*Find a trustworthy person to take the cake knife, toasting glasses, etc. to the reception.  That person is on the guestlist/wedding party
*Get final beauty treatments (manicure, facial, massage, waxing, brow shaping, etc.).  Um... I don't do those things.
*Pack for the honeymoon.  Common sense.


The day before the wedding:

*Get something old - symbolizes continuity with the bride's family and the past.  Done.
* Get something new - means optimism and hope for the bride's new life ahead  Done.
* Get something borrowed - an item from a happily married friend or family member, whose good fortune in marriage is supposed to carry over to the new bride. Thanks, John.
* Get something blue - to symbolize love, modesty, and fidelity.  Done.
* And a silver sixpence in her shoe - represents wealth and financial security. For optimum fortune, the sixpence should be in the left shoe. These days, a dime or a copper penny can be substituted.  Thanks Phoenix.

The day of the wedding:

*Relax and remain calm.  HAHAHAHAHA
*Remember to eat something. You may be so busy with things that you forget.  I doubt I'll remember this list
*Allow yourself at least two hours to get dressed.  Why so long?
*Enjoy yourself at this once in a life time event!  If I'm not freaking out.

Summary = (Freaking out) X (Wedding planning list) / promise of food and drink = Pessimistic Janie.

What if this doesn't happen?  Something is going to go wrong.  Something terrible.  I can't take it if that happens.  I don't know what to do.

Comments

[rude-not-ginger.livejournal.com]

Just remember, with time travel you can take as much time as you need.

Just don't accidentally go forward to the day of, that's always confusing.

[a-mind-flip.livejournal.com]

That's true! If I wasn't over-reacting, I would remember that.

[malcolmeffect.livejournal.com]

You're not getting a job in Texas. You really need to stop worrying about money. There is plenty of money for anything you want for the wedding or anything else.
No, you don't need to lose weight.
We've got a caterer and a baker all you have to do is find a picture of a cake you like.
I should send you to the spa when we get to Texas.
The attendant gifts are for the maid of honor and bride's maids.
You do have a flower girl or one very eager bride's maid.
Don't worry, I won't have many there either.

Pessimistic Ja'nee + very experienced husband = nothing to worry about.

Everything will be fine. Do you want to talk about dates?

Brings her a glass of wine.

OOC: The idea of them writing vows as equations makes me die of laughter.

[a-mind-flip.livejournal.com]

I have school to worry about, and I don't want to be completely dependent on you.
Why was it on the list if I don't need to?
She wants to be in the wedding? That's good.

She sips the wine We should, but I have no idea of when would be good, or if we should worry about it later.

[malcolmeffect.livejournal.com]

You will be busy with school. You won't have time for a job. I don't want you to have to go to school and work.
Some women want to lose weight for their weddings.
Maya never let her come to my other weddings.


I will worry about it when you are ready to worry about it.

[a-mind-flip.livejournal.com]

I'll have weekends free to work. It'll be nice having Kelly there.

How far in the future should it be?

[malcolmeffect.livejournal.com]

You'll have weekends to spend with me. Ja'nee, you'll be studying all week and I'll be working. We barely had time together when you were just working in New York.

It will be. I have a court date for a custody hearing.

As far as you want.

[jp-hammond.livejournal.com]

I think all young women worry about their wedding day. Perhaps you can borrow something of Alice's. It will be no trouble at all for me to bring it along.

[a-mind-flip.livejournal.com]

Thank you John. I appreciate that. I didn't think I would be so worried about this.

[jp-hammond.livejournal.com]

You name a piece of jewelery and I'll find something appropriate from what I have of Alice's. All young people are worried. Even Ian is but that man will refuse to acknowledge it.

[a-mind-flip.livejournal.com]

I think a necklace would work nicely. I think I was too busy worrying to see that he is worried too.

[def-rock.livejournal.com]

I could be a bridesmaid? ;D

[a-mind-flip.livejournal.com]

Yes! Thank you! <3

[ashes-ascended.livejournal.com]

*Offers Janie an old British shilling, pre-1920's, so it's pure silver*

For your shoe?



ooc: I dun fact-checked :p *iz wicked*

[a-mind-flip.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

[ashes-ascended.livejournal.com]

One less thing...

[a-mind-flip.livejournal.com]

Yes, now to finish the rest of the list.

[kaydee-did.livejournal.com]

I will absolutely help you if you need it! I've never planned a wedding, before, but...an extra hand has to help.

[a-mind-flip.livejournal.com]

It will help! Thank you!! Um. Do you want to be my maid of honor?

[kaydee-did.livejournal.com]

Oh my god, I'd love to.

[a-mind-flip.livejournal.com]

Oh my god, thank you thank you!

[multixcolored.livejournal.com]

I'm so getting shot for this, but....

If you need any help planning, I know someone who's ridiculously experienced.

[a-mind-flip.livejournal.com]

You do? I have until May 25th to complete the list. That's the day Ian and I decided on.

Why would you get shot?

[multixcolored.livejournal.com]

All right. That's....that's not too close, right?

Heh, cause Ryan's who I'm talking about. Bad for the image to be a wedding expert, y'know.

[a-mind-flip.livejournal.com]

Less than eleven months. After the school year is over.

Ryan knows a lot about weddings? If he wants to help, I will gladly take it.